2 Under 2! WTHeck?!

…the other one decides he can’t be left out of the action and decides to poop too! I find myself wondering if “can change diaper of squirmish newborn/toddler in cramped quarters”

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Hey there! It’s been a while! Apart from the random facebook post or 2, I haven’t really been great at staying up to date with this! I’d love to say that I will be now but with a new baby- I can make no promises to anyone about anything! Like, I can’t even promise MYSELF I will shower today! Yep! It’s that hectic over here sometimes!

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If you know me or you’ve been following my blog, you know about my Liam who is just over 15 and a half months. Well, now I have also had baby number 2: Kairo, who I call “My Kai”; he is 6 weeks today!

So I have joined the “2 under 2 club”!

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People give mixed feedback about being a member of this club- whether they themselves are members or not. I’ve been told everything really! From “it’s best this way to have them so close together in age” to I’m “effin’ crazy!”

So what is it like being a mother of 2 very small children? I am somewhere in between the 2 above opinions on how I feel about the membership!

I have been very lucky to have to very easy babies. They sleep well, they eat well- I don’t have many of the complaints that mothers of newborn babies or toddlers tend to have. With both boys I have dealt with (and still in the process with Kairo) a bit of colic and constipation but nothing too intense where anyone loses hours of sleep.

I didn’t gain a lot of weight with either pregnancy- so thankfully, I don’t have the task of having to shed the pounds. Although, my body is NOT where I would like it to be- it really isn’t that bad- all things considered.

Sometimes it is difficult to deal with both boys when I’m with them by myself. For example, I am still trying to figure out a smooth and effective way to drop Liam off to his school with Kairo in tow.

We live in a very small and safe suburb in the north of Madrid. I could maybe leave Kairo in the car for the 3-5 minutes it takes me to take Liam in- but I don’t feel right doing that. I have tried putting Kairo in my ring sling and having Liam hold my hand but that turns a 2 minute walk to the school into 10 minutes- and it’s cold up here! Plus Liam is still trying to fully figure out the whole walking thing. The baby carrier is about the same! It’s a work in progress- I will hopefully have it figured out before the end of the school year.

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There are days when they decide to cry together in solidarity. I try to tell myself to think of it as a brotherly duet- they’re expressing their love for each other and for me. Other days I just mutter lots of swear words under my breath and vow to tie my tubes or at least never to have sex again!

Let’s not even talk about poop! The days when I need to change one of them- in the car- and the other one decides he can’t be left out of the action and decides to poop too! I find myself wondering if “can change diaper of squirmish newborn/toddler in cramped quarters” earns me any points on my resume!

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Me checking my diaper changing skills off my list!

Then there are the moments when Liam (older son) randomly walks up to Kairo (new baby son) and kisses him. Or the days when Kairo is crying and Liam (who can ignore you like no other) drops (literally) what he’s doing and runs over to rub his brother’s belly!

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The very adorable moments may not outweigh the somewhat frustrating moments in frequency but they last longer in my heart. It makes me happy to see them interacting with each other- in their own little ways. I know that in about a year, there will be arguments and fights but I’m excited for Kairo to get bigger and to watch them play together.

Having “2 under 2” AIN’T EASY but when it happens to be 2 healthy, happy and handsome babies- it is without a doubt, well worth it!

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A Bit about Breastfeeding & People’s 2 cents

Just before Liam turned 3 months, breastfeeding became difficult. I felt like I could not keep up with his demand. Now, I definitely had the supply, but he would feed for such long periods of time and so frequently that I was just sore and miserable. I tried the Medela Nipple Shields and I actually went into a store that specialises in these things to ensure I was getting the correct size and everything. It didn’t work.

I tried pumping and feeding him my milk from the bottle but then he would finish the bottle and want more milk. It was just easier to let him latch on than defrost my frozen milk which was slowly but surely depleting.

I honestly think breastfeeding should be an intimate moment between mummy and baby to be enjoyed. The problem was, I wasn’t enjoying it. I was irritable or I was crying. I was upset that I was in pain but determined to feed my baby, since at this point, his only source of nutrition was my milk.

My husband kept telling me to “just give him formula” but the formula we brought home with us the day we brought him home, after he had it once, he was constipated for 3 days. So I turned to the “wise” old Internet and started researching alternatives to breast milk. That’s when I stumbled on goat’s milk formula.

What a Godsend! According to different sources (and Liam’s pediatrician), goat’s milk is a bit gentler on the stomach and is more similar to human breast milk than cow’s milk. I have found information to contradict this so please don’t go on my word only. If you are considering goat’s milk formula for your baby, talk with his/her pediatrician first.

In our case, it worked well. He had no stomach issues and he seemed to be indifferent to the taste. We opted for an organic goat’s milk formula by Holle’s. It was a bit pricey but it was worth it. I used it whenever I was too sore to breastfeed. Sometimes taking an entire day off of him latching on but making sure to pump every few hours to keep up my supply.

I started introducing solids to Liam at about 5 and a half months. Prior to that he had tried a little spoon of fruit purée here and there but he didn’t seem to like it, so I didn’t insist. He seemed to like vegetables more than fruits, so every few days he would get a little bit of  a steamed vegetable.

I chose to loosely follow the Baby Led Weaning (BLW) method. As our pediatrician so rightly put it: we don’t eat just purées or only soups or only solids, we eat a mix and babies should do the same- age appropriately, of course.

Honestly, I am too lazy to make purées and spoon feed a baby several times a day! So BLW was the best choice for me. If you choose to start off with mashed food, then introduce solid bits, or breastfeed exclusively, that’s a personal choice. Whatever you do, I advise that you consult with your pediatrician, in case your baby might need a dietary supplement or something. Just don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for doing what’s right for YOUR baby.

People tend to be very judgemental when it comes to how OTHERS raise their children. Everyone has an opinion and everyone is an expert! If you are a first time mum, coupled with your hormones that still might be all over the place, you might take some of this advice [read criticism] to heart. I have been told everything from I’m not feeding my son enough to start cutting down on breastfeeding to I should not be giving him solid food yet (when he was 8 months).

I think what might be worse than all the unsolicited advice, is when people compare while trying to sound like they aren’t. So they will mention that they have never given their child formula, right when you’re preparing a bottle for your baby. Or make comments about how painful or stressful they think something you’re doing would be for their baby.

I can’t stress enough how important it is to be as confident as you possibly can when it comes to raising your child. You have an innate maternal instict and deep down, you know exactly what your baby needs and if you don’t that’s ok. But please, consult a professional when you have doubts. Never feel silly about your doubts, that’s what these professionals are there for- and by professional, I mean a pediatrician, nurse or midwife.

Raising a little human is hard and even the best of us don’t have it all figured out. Trust yourself and do your best! It tends to get easier.

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Hey there!

I took a little (maybe long) hiatus from writing.

Life just got busy, I guess! I also felt like I wasn’t getting the response I had initially hoped for with my blog. Not so much from strangers; but from people who I would expect to really be supportive. However, you can’t base your happiness on other people, furthermore their reactions. 

I think it was while I was reading through my comments and messages people have sent in response to my posts and I realised, there are people out there that read my posts and there are people out there that like my posts and find them encouraging, helpful; or at least, funny! 

So while I may never be ‘the next big thing’ when it comes to blogging, I am content with helping who I can and grateful for those of you who follow and support!

I have a few posts that I need to publish and a few ideas for posts that I am working on. Thank you for your continued support. 

What the hell do I know…?

If you know me, you know I had a baby 5 months and 3 days ago. I can count it down to the hours and minutes- but let’s face it… you probably don’t care.

Since I’ve had my son, a few mums have reached out to me and asked me for advice or my opinion on various things ”mummy/baby” related. I always think to myself- ”What the hell do I know…?” but I always try to help however I can.

You see, this whole mother thing doesn’t come with a manual. Of course there are various self help books and such but I honestly haven’t found one that’s my ‘definite go to’.

So what do I do, you may ask… well, I employ a bit of common sense, a bit of reading and very much appreciated advice from friends who are also mums and hope for the best.

To date, Liam (my son) is fine.

SO now to the business of this blog.

I am currently home with Liam- possibly until he turns 1 and while I love my boy, it’s only so interesting talking to a 5 month (and 3 days) old baby. If you know me, you know I am very opinionated and I don’t care too much about what people think (my days for that are long over).

Since I love to write and I have tons of opinions- I figure why not blog about this new adventure called mummyhood. Which direction is this blog going to go in? NO idea… but if I Can help another mum or entertain someone reading this- all the while doing something I love (writing)- well, why not?!

 

Disclaimer: This is NOT for the faint of heart, play by ALL the damn rules, judgy, boring mother.

Who is this blog catered to? New OPEN-MINDED mums, future mums, friends, family and quiet maccos.

Let’s see where this goes.